Date Selection – 择日嫁娶 PART 1
Date Selection Effect – Immediate as compared to FengShui; which can be felt by 100 days or longer to take effect.
Trust me, after going through the following lists, you will find that there are just that few days left to choose from within a given year. More so with urgency because of a growing stomach that the woman concerned cannot wait too long. And that time is of essence.
As a matter of professionalism and Divine considerations, for people who seek my service to choose a Auspicious date; I will prefer to turn away such situational awkwardness. I hold to the belief of Most Auspicious setting a top priority over urgency.
When come to Chinese culture in ancient times, we have many customs and rituals that the older generations tend to follow most practices to the letter. Divorce was unheard of; and a taboo.
More so, rituals related to getting married. The old great grand aunties were the ones adamant ‘ die die ’ must follow-through procedures that put the whole event into history museum. I mean put-off by the younger generations.
Today, we have simplified so many rituals and procedures that the ones paying the money; usually the ‘going to get married’ couple. They call the shots. The wedding planner, family elders now seems to have less and less ‘SAY’ in the whole episode.
I do hope there is no co-relation between actual clashes of events against age old protocol with rising divorces in recent years.
Nevertheless, I try to share knowledge that I get to know for readers reference.
Of course, we do have diversity with our many dialect groups among the Chinese. Each may have differ/variation of the whole wedding procedures to follow through.
Please do use your own dialect preference when situation call for.
We all have 3 BIG days in our lives.
- The day we were born
- The day we get married
- The day when we die…….
During these 3 days; all GOOD must come to you, and your loved ones will observe that BAD things don’t cross your path.
Getting married –
Date Selection criterias…..
Both the couples’ BAZI八字 must not clash with the day selected
Year of Birth for – Great grand-parent/s; Grand-parents; Parents. (Detailed in some cases)
Some go to the extend of not getting married within their elders’ Month of Birth.
Siblings Month of Birth are depending on circumstances; more for consideration if they are directly involved in the ceremony of welcoming the couple ( to & fro ) from both families.
For Cantonese, elder and/or younger sister of the Bridegroom are advised to observe low profile throughout the whole Wedding. 姑 means lonely, oddity. Only one left.
Many modern Practitioners choose Dates that clashes with the elders in matter of ‘no choice’, and suggest that the Elders (i.e. Grand parents to avoid receiving the newly-wed couple when the young ones came home vice versa ).
No, it is a ‘NO NO’. Within a year, ill health will befall on the elders somehow, worst….. pass-on after-which.
As the Bride to-be will enter into a new page in life for giving life to the next generation. 再 造
We cannot tell, whether the next King, Queen, President, Prime Minister or someone of GREATNESS will be born into this family?
So our Chinese age-old practices must preferably be follow-through for all the BLESSINGS that can befall on the lucky couple. Now, we are getting somewhere……
There are so many days that cannot be used. After factoring all the required inputs. Furthermore, there are many months and days that are inauspicious too.
Like –
Lunar New Year 1st day
Qin Ming清 明
Lunar 7th Month农历七月
Ren Month壬 月
Personal Bad/Breaker Dates
Year/Month/Day Breaker Days
Various Clashes
10 Big Disaster Days / No Wealth Days
4 Separation Days
4 Extinct Days
The 12 Day Officers Method
The 28 Constellations Method
Good Timing and the STARS
The Gods and Killings Method
San Sha Year/Month/Day/Hour (Especially so for Setting of Bed ); no digging, renovation nor movements must be observed.
Tiger year of Birth Ladies, bad news for you. You are to be avoided at all COSTS during the Wedding ceremony. As ancient belief has it that you will eat up all the couple’s potential of child bearing possibilities…… Of course, no harm on your presence during the evening Wedding Banquet.
Pregnant women are advised not to be presence during the Wedding Ceremony as they clash with the Bride to-be.
On top of all the above, we throw in Dong Gong Date Selection, and so many more……
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P.S. Dong Gong Date Selection董 公 择日学 was meant only accessible by the Imperial Court in ancient times kept and protected for Emperor and the Royalty use. It is more accurate than Tong-Shu used mainly by the Commoners.
With also word of mouth secrets pass down by master to master, Date Selection process has become a sophisticated study to benefit mankind at large.
My advice is, for the discerning, do consider the price you pay to the practitioner, money well spent.
For who knows, the next Prime Minister or President; may be borned into your family…..
To be continued…………….